November Rose: A Speech on Death
(Winner of the 2008 Independent Publisher Book Award)

"... this book of consolation [is] amazing in its philosophical purity ..."
--Durs Grünbein

"... the most excellent book on grief I have read ..."
--Annie Moore, Founder and Organizer, The Sun Will Come Out Tomorrow Meet-Up

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ISBN 978-0-9795829-1-2 (cloth)
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In this penetrating, thought-provoking, and deeply personal philosophical meditation on the death of the beloved other and the turmoil into which it throws those who were close to him, philosopher Kathrin Stengel opens hitherto unseen vistas onto one of the most painful human experiences. The author's ruthless clarity of observation, coupled with razor-sharp philosophical intuition and unflinching honesty of judgment, allows her to pinpoint the personal and social complexities of life after death in a way that cannot but make us doubt some of our common practices in dealing with death and survival.



"Dr. Kathrin Stengel has written the most excellent book on grief I have read. And I have read almost all the grief books I could find. November Rose is unique among grief books because it is more truthful than most and because it speaks for the survivors of death ... All widows and widowers and other survivors of a great love will relate to the writing of this book. Best of all, survivors are given, in the last two chapters, a guide to finding their way back into life again."

Annie Moore, Founder and Organizer, The Sun Will Come Out Tomorrow Meet-Up

"... exquisite, eloquent, and beautifully thought through. It's philosophy as meditation."

Claudia Weinstein, Senior Editor, 60 Minutes, CBS

"... November Rose: it is a treatise of such conceptual density that it seems to reveal itself to the reader only gradually and in spurts. I have read it in one sitting, but that was a mistake. Now it is sitting on my desk, on cer-tain days I open it and read a couple of pages – that’s much better. The ideal reading pace for this book would probably be about three sentences per day – only in this manner can this amazing book of consolation (amazing in its philosophical purity) achieve its full impact. What I mean is the subtle sense of vertigo in reading it: the reader is drawn into reflections about the inevitable, as if it had already long happened. And, indeed, it has – and not only for the one whose voice we hear in this book, but for each of us, who listen closely ..."

Durs Grünbein, award-winning poet

"Kathrin Stengel has landed a coup. She has succeeded in elevating the personal and intimate to the level of the universal - in writing a book that is crystal-clear and understandable, while being emotionally persuasive and inviting its reader fully to open herself to it. Her ruthless analysis and sober assessment of our dealing with survival and death notwithstanding, Kathrin Stengel has also written a story that is simply the story of a great love."

Heike Simon, Editor-in-Chief, Radio Bavaria, Germany

"Kathrin Stengel has written on the death of the other and how to understand the fact of that death without resorting to feel good pyscho-babble or self-improvement moralizing ... in a language as clear as reading Cioran or Unamuno ..."

Thomas McGonigle,

"I don't think that thoughts such as these have ever been articulated before. November Rose: A Speech on Death is not only utterly original, but, more important, it taps into our very roots - and this is, by all counts, something very rare indeed in our discourse-ridden and existentially impoverished age. It is truly a profoundly beautiful book."

Dr. Marion Detjen, Author and Historian

"November Rose is a beautiful book. I can only agree that having seen death that close (watching, holding and kissing the dead person you love so much) changes you for ever and probably for the best."

Sarah Miller, Homemaker and Mother of Four

"I read your book and found it more than wonderful. You really project clear-headedness, happiness and a remarkable lack of anger (and other negative feelings). Excellent!"

Jean Paul Schmetz, CEO, Schmetzfunds and 10betterpages

"Yesterday, I reread the beautiful November Rose for the second time. This book is not only beautifully written, but written with honesty and emotional purity. It is, on the one hand, a story about love and life, and, on the other hand, a story full of sadness and grief. It invites deep thinking and empathizing."

Natascha Theis, Event Planer for Robert Wilson

"I truly cannot adequately express in words what a profoundly moving, engaging, intellectually rich and inspiring experience reading November Rose has been ... As a fellow philosopher I am indebted to Kathrin Stengel for broadening my horizons, for illuminating parts of my own experience in this precious world, and for challenging me to rethink certain concepts and to deepen my understanding of them."

Dr. Licia Carlson, Philosopher, Harvard University

"This speech gets under your skin. A beloved's premature death is an inexorably tragic event. With philosophical precision and utmost poetic force, sustained by a profound and all-encompassing sense of humanity, Kathrin Stengel transports the reader into the very depths of this event and guides him through it. This speech builds bridges - between life and death, as well as between reader and author. It is imbued with the love of life in its entirety - a love that is capacious enough to contain even death itself. This speech is written with the eyes of the heart. It is indispensable reading."

Dr. Stefan Daltrop, Philosopher,

"After rereading November Rose: A Speech on Death I had to read it again - for the third time ... and not because I am slow to understand - no, it's because with every new reading, I discover new things in this book. I have to admit that initially I hesitated to pick up the book, as I was somewhat scared to confront the topic of death. Now, however, that I have read and reread it several times, I feel that could write endlessly about it, analyzing, probing, interpreting it ... but I'll make it short: it is a wonderful book! What I find most amazing is that each sentence fits like a glove: there nothing superfluous or artificial about it ..."

Christina Schrader, PR Consultant

"It is a must read for everyone who has lost a partner. I lost my husband 2 1/2 years ago to colon cancer and reading this book has confirmed a lot of my feelings and thoughts. It is very helpful for those who lost a partner and are in a new relationship."

Margit's review,

"... an immense help ... incredibly valuable ... beautifully written ..."

Lindsay Dyson-Smith, Reader

"I read November Rose: A Speech on Death and couldn't put it down. I would like to thank the author from the heart. I am deeply touched, deeply moved. It is an intelligent and humane speech. It shows a rare combination of mind and heart. This book gives me courage to transform suffering into strength, to say yes to life, and to learn to see our singularity as human beings."

Elke Premauer, Journalist and Founder of "Thinking Weeks"-Château d'Orion

"I read November Rose one afternoon in London over the New Year holiday. I found the book deeply thought provoking. For me it said so much about grief. I have not experienced this kind of grief personally, but have a very close friend who went through ... similar experiences ..., although at a later stage in his life. The same issues and emotions swirled around him. The same attitudes of others. But I thought that the book said as much about the nature of loving as it did about death, as I know it was meant to."

Dr. Sheila Gilfillan, Psychiatrist

"Its gentle and allusive manner stirs up feelings that are hard to name and yet allow one to cry with relief for having recognized them."

Sue Martin, Middle School Teacher

"... feels like a volume of poetry that one would like to peruse off and on. Its contents: observed with precision, beautifully articulated, structured with clarity. Simply stunning! And moving to the core ... immensely valuable for my psychotherapeutic work ... "

Dr. Anna Maria Friedle, Psychotherapist

"... a great speech that puts everything into the right perspective."

Deborah Chen, CPA

"... a consummate love song, an unstoppable battle cry of true passion ... powerful and mercilessly truthful ..."

Dr. Mike Mirsky, Scientist

"... a true and beautiful book. Anyone who reads it will be strengthened by its honesty, wisdom, and capacity to affirm life ... This seems to me a very Jewish book in its love of life and living fully ... not to speak of its intellectual clarity. It is rare for a book to combine philosophy and poetry (prose poetry) so very happily ..."

Rabbi and Poet, Norman D. Hirsh, author of God Loves Becoming

"It is a wonderful book."

Neal Steele , WXGM-FM - Norfolk, VA

"November Rose: A speech on Death should be a required reading before you go to a funeral home or before you meet someone who has lost a beloved."
Louie Free, Host of The Louie Free Radio Show - WASN-AM

ISBN 978-0-9795829-1-2 (cloth)
ISBN 978-1-935830-12-2 (eBook)

Publication Date: November 25, 2007


Kathrin Stengel, Ph.D., cofounder and President of Upper West Side Philosophers, Inc., Studio & Publishing, studied philosophy at the Universities of Leuven (Belgium), Munich, and Konstanz (Germany). She has taught philosophy at Seattle University and the Rhode Island School of Design, and has published widely on ethics, aesthetics, and epistemology, including Das Subjekt als Grenze (The Subject as Threshold) — a comparative study on Ludwig Wittgenstein’s philosophy of language and Maurice Merleau-Ponty’s philosophy of perception. Her book November Rose: A Speech on Death — a philosophical meditation on loss, grief, and survival — has won the 2008 Independent Publisher Book Award. A frequent guest on radio programs throughout the US and Europe, Kathrin Stengel has designed and organized international philosophical events, including ‘What is Space? A Philosophical Inquiry into Space and the Imagination’, ‘About Style: A Philosophical Meditation on the Question of Style’, and ‘On Imagination: A Philosophical Studio’ (all three at the Rhode Island School of Design), as well as ‘Thinking and Experiencing Space’ (Germany), ‘Philosophical Walks with Nietzsche’ (Switzerland), ‘Pain and Beauty in Philosophy and the Arts’ (Seattle University), and ‘Image and Music: Improvisations on the 14 Stations’ for the Interfaith Assembly for Homelessness and Housing in New York City, video documentation of which was on display at the Brooklyn Museum of Art in 2005. For many years, Kathrin has also taught Vipassana Meditation. She lives in Manhattan with her husband and three sons.